What are addictions, really? Dependancies? I’m not sure if they really are. I think it’s the ego reminding us of something we’ve habitually been doing.
Smoking, for example, is a reminder to have a cigarette. That’s all. We have a choice to say yes or no. The ego, that little voice in our head, is merely reminding us. If you aren’t familiar with “that little voice”, just stop and listen to it now …
… it’s that voice that said, “What little voice, I don’t hear any little voice?”
Addiction starts with something we like a lot and can’t seem to get enough of it. Behind that is pshychology that may involve past issues or any number of “causes” … weaned to early or whatever. It doesn’t matter what the cause is, we’re left with the effect and it’s not as difficult as we think.
Step one is recognizing that your ego is reminding us and we’re trying to “shut that voice up”; so the easiest way is to give into it. As soon as we realize it’s just a little voice and can’t force us into anything, is our first step.
Wanting a change is another step. If there’s no desire, there’s no motivation.
Believeing we have a choice is the big issue here. If we feel we don’t, then we give in. If we do, then we can choose freely.
Changing the belief is the process; so changing from “I’m a smoker” to “I’m not a smoker” is were it’s heading. If you can, start to see yourself as a smoking non-smoker. Plan for it. Like taking ballet lessons. You imagine yourself as a beautifully poised and well rehearsed dancer way before you are. Use the same principle.
I hope this helps.
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